Finding Yourself Part 2
“The wisdom of the prudent is to give thought to their ways.” Proverbs 14:8
There is a quote in an article I read over the weekend saying “Think before you speak. The words you speak can only be forgiven, not forgotten.” That spoke volumes to me on so many levels. But then I relate back to a quote many know, “sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me.” Trying to comprehend the point this statement makes is that words do not hurt, when that information couldn't be more wrong. We are told words everyday, some good, some bad. What I have realized is that the words that stick with us the rest of our lives are the bad ones. Being called a disappointment, or being called ugly. Told your not good enough, that someone doesn't care, or even a promise one makes, but never lives up too. That sticks. It gets into your brain and becomes normal. It becomes normal to think about yourself as a dissapointment, a disgrace, ugly, fat, not good enough. But if these words are so powerful and so bold, why aren't there counter words that mean just as much? The truth is, there isn't. No matter how much anyone compliments you, tells you how beautiful you are, how proud they are of you, it will never equal up to the negative words already said, until we get rid of the negative planted into us. The words we describe ourselves as make up who are are, along with the words people choose to use about us. Words hurt. They cut, they scar, they harm us in ways only words can. It affects our thoughts about ourselves, our thoughts on others, how we treat others, and how we love others. But as broken and beat down as we are, words can make us feel better. The “i'm proud of yous”, the “i love yous” the “wow you're amazings”, they heal. They heal us to a point where when we look at ourselves in the mirror we see GOOD ENOUGH. We see LOVED. We see BEAUTIFUL. We often find ourselves embedded in the words used to describe us. And until we can choose to see the kind words instead of the negative, is when we can LOVE ourselves and when your capable to love yourself, you can love others BETTER. Whether you're reading this from Northpoint, or you heard about us online, or even my friends, thank you. It's because of people like you, that I am able to do this. Stay tuned for a new blog post every week about the latest feelings, activities, and stories I have to share. Be kind to one another, God bless.